Growing up I never in my life had a weight issue, if anything I couldn’t put weight on. I was always tiny and underweight especially according to the scale for kids. By the time I reached my freshman year in high school I was only 90 pounds. I’m not trying to gloat about it just trying to give a new perspective into the whole weight and American’s being obese.
It wasn’t until my early 20’s that I really started packing on weight, even with my first son I gained a lot with him but I lost it all. My 20’s were hard though, I don’t use them as an excuse but it is what started to lead me down the obese path. First I moved away from all my family and friends. Shortly after we moved to where I currently live I lost a grandmother, a month later I lost a grandfather and had a miscarriage on the same day.
You can imagine the depression I was going through and to be very honest with you I am bipolar too and wasn’t medicated. I never turned to food though. When I am depressed I don’t eat (I do now, more of that later) but back then I didn’t. I ate my dinner and I lived off of pop. During that time I am not sure how much weight I gained but I was overweight, severely for my height, I am only 5’1”.
In February of 2005 I lost my aunt, in July of 2005 I lost my grandmother (my aunt’s and my mom’s mom), then to top it all off in September of 2005 I lost my mom. After that the weight just packed on and I still was not medicated which I really should have been.
During this time my husband was also gaining weight, I grew up on your normal typical meals, spaghetti and meatballs, hamburgers, meatloaf etc so they aren’t horrible for you but we didn’t ever do any type of portion control. To top it all off my husband was a truck driver for years, so his job required him to sit and stay awake which required food and lots of caffeine!
In 2008 we both decided enough was enough we couldn’t take the way we looked any longer. We decided we were going to get healthy! We both took pop out of our diets, I started cooking healthier meals and we watched our portions, in addition to that we worked out together at our local YMCA.
At some point in time during this journey he lost around 180 pounds and I had lost around 75 (my highest weight at that time was 220). We were doing good but then life got in the way again and we slowly started progressing backwards. Before we knew it we had put back on the weight plus some. We lived with our weight for a very long time.
By the time 2014 rolled around we had an amazing opportunity to go to Disney World and the Florida Keys except it wasn’t the most positive experience because my husband was at 500 pounds and I was at 245. I was able to somehow keep up with my kids at Disney but my husband on the other hand wasn’t and had to miss out on most of that trip. That was our wake-up call! When we got home we decided to do something about it, we started making small changes and then my husband looked into weight-loss surgery. For him he was convinced that this was his only option, I wasn’t fully on board for myself yet. I looked at it like I did it once before I can do it again. I started going to the information meetings with him and by the time his meetings were over I knew I needed the surgery too or else nothing would ever change! Now I want to make something perfectly clear, weigh-loss surgery is NOT a quick fix, it is only a TOOL! You have to put in the work, you have to keep to a strict diet, you have to take vitamins the rest of your life and most importantly (which some people who have the surgery don’t do) you have to workout! You will not be a total success if you don’t! Surgery is just a tool! My husband had his surgery in June of 2015 and has currently lost over 200 pounds, I took my turn in October of 2015 and have currently lost over 100 pounds. We are still working on ourselves but we do it together! It’s great when you have a good support system it helps a lot, our family and friends have been supportive since day one! My husband and I motivate each other on a daily basis and we have a new family/friends which are our “bari” friends!
Weight-loss surgery isn’t for everyone but if you are over weight and have tried everything it is an option worth looking into to! If anyone would ever have any questions I would be more than happy to help answer them!
You will get to learn more of my journey as the page grows! Below is some great information on the surgery we had which is call the gastric sleeve surgery.
Gastric sleeve surgery (vertical sleeve gastrectomy) removes about 80% of the stomach. As a result, patients:
Feel less hungry
Feel full sooner after eating
Lose up to 3/4 of their excess weight
Improve or cure their obesity-related health problems
To read more about gastric sleeve surgery click here.